The Poet says….Forgiveness from a wife or girlfriend is
sometimes verbalized for the moment until she realizes that the pain was far
greater than she could have ever imagined from what was done to her. There is
no set time on how long the forgiveness process takes. During the recovery time
of the woman's pain she makes every attempt to allow her heart and mind regain
the trust of her mate. The husband or the boyfriend will have a long journey
before he is allowed to truly share the space of his wife or girlfriend again, because
of her broken heart. There are very
mixed emotions from the woman, and sometimes during the recovery process she
feels scorned, lonely, she will desire the emotional connection she once had
with her mate. Because she has a wall of protection of being hurt again from her
mate, her pheromones secret “Openness” of acceptance from other men. Her walk
is different, her conversation is different, and her intimacy is different. She
is having sex with her mate, but desires to make love eventually with which she
seeks attention. In the blink of an eye,
she has done something that is totally against what she believes. In the mist of her recovery, and allowing the
other men to fill her time and space up she has less of an emotional connection
from her husband or boyfriend. You see
once a woman gets emotionally attached with another man it is almost impossible
to allow the forgiveness and the redemption to continue for her husband or
boyfriend. The things she did with her husband, she is now doing with the other
men, and sometimes it’s more than one man, to help fill the void of loneliness.
The constant denial of what she is doing only fuels the
behavior, that is wrong, but not wrong to her because now her needs are being fulfilled
all over again. In the mist of emotional
rollercoaster she still has insecurities, and expectations from her spouse or
significant other. She will continue to search for signs that he continues to
be unfaithful. The husband or the boyfriend truly has forgiveness in his hurt,
and wants his place back in her heart, but sometimes in life the second chance
may have been just too much to handle, so it never happens.
In the end the wounded relationships will either survive, they
will die if they both are not trying to truly reconcile.
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