Voices, Choices, Do You Understand

LADIES.........In life you have choices, and you have voices, you choose to do what you think is right and wrong with your relationships. You also have voices that love to tell you what you should do, or should not do from someone who has been alone since the disciples was on earth. You see ladies if you want to find the truth about a man, ask a man that you trust that and you are not intimate with, or have no desire to be intimate with. Stop going on your assumption on what you think a man will do or how he thinks. You see ladies you want to really know how to get deep with this. First, your keeping him is not about how hot and wet your "Cat"" Sweet Bread" or whatever you call your "Vee Jay Jay" can really get.  A close friend of the Poet's years ago said that when a man cheats, or steps outside the home for sexual needs, it is not about the "Vee Jay Jay", The "Vee Jay Jay" is just one of the rewards he gets while seeking someone to talk to. You see ladies, first stop barking at your husband, man, boyfriend, boo, or friend, or whatever his title is.  Remember while you talking at him crazy ass hell, she is not, she is "Listening" to him consoling him, comforting him, and doing just the opposite of what you are not doing for him or to him. You know ladies you got to understand, despite him being saved, religious, Holy, Mormon, JW, Muslim, etc, the man process is the same. Sometimes his not being faithful has nothing to do with you, but his low self-esteem but him wanting to feel accepted, and sexual acceptance is self fulfilling.  Learn to hear what he has to say, also try and hear the things he is not saying, pay close attention.

Now if you have a man that is very Loving, Comforting, Kind Husband, Man, Boo etc, Keep pushing and keep trying, to understand what his needs are, and learn what you can accept or won't accept.

Men......You can be putting it down in the bedroom, don't mean your woman won't step out on you. You can pay all of the bills in your house, she can have a nice car, and don't have to work, and you can be very affectionate don't mean crap. A long tool than can run deep, with financial pockets won't keep your woman off her back with other men, if it's in her it is in her, just like a man. I am not making excuses for the behavior of both men and women, but in reality, this is happening daily. First off, most men think, if they are showing affection, and intimacy without sex, is a sign of weakness. A lot of men are not making Love to their woman, they are "Screwing" them, they are not making Love. Ladies you know if he is making love to you are not. Stop fooling yourself, if he is not holding you, caressing you, and doing the things, you know he knows how to please you, that means you have been getting "Screwed". There is a difference in what you get. All women desire to have a nice house or home with a white picked fence, there is a difference. Men stop thinking like the ladies your "Dick" is not the trick or the "Magic Wand" or the solution for a successful relationship.

Ladies and Gentlemen, if you was never have been taught your role as a man or woman, Ladies get with a mature woman who will really show you and tell you what the game is really about. Men you try and connect with a man who thinks with something other than his "Dick". You see there are some of what I call "The Old Heads" who really understand what it is. Let someone teach you, treat you, reach you, and get you to the place you want to be.

Ladies, and gents, evaluate where you are, evaluate where you are going, but most of all evaluate what you want and what you desire to be in your relationship, and strive to continue to understand who you are with.

In closing even if it is not "Sexual" there will always be another man or another woman to provide a listening ear to your mate. This listening ear does not mean that sex is going down, but in the end it can happen, but that is another story from your boy "THE POET" telling some real truth.

Open Relationships

Real talk if more men and women could be open about having an open relationship it would be more people staying together. You see with an open relationship, there would be no reason to step out on your mate.  Let me just tell the truth that more men are stepping out on there mate, then women. To be open would be is to have a mutual agreement between the two people, but men can not take what they dish out. They want a woman to do as they say, not as they do. I say what's good for you has to be good for them.

The problem with most marriages, or relationships is that most couples don't want to talk about the real intimate things, because it makes them feel uncomfortable. Most men don't want to talk about what it is that their wives, or girlfriends wants, or need from them. In the long run over time I have seen some of the most sweetest woman loose her fight to hold on to her man, and she will allow the next man, come in and have the listening ear she needed from her husband. This also applies to the woman as well.

Talk with who you are with, and listen to what they have to say and show concern, because if you don't, they next woman, or man will be in your place.