Voices, Choices, Do You Understand

LADIES.........In life you have choices, and you have voices, you choose to do what you think is right and wrong with your relationships. You also have voices that love to tell you what you should do, or should not do from someone who has been alone since the disciples was on earth. You see ladies if you want to find the truth about a man, ask a man that you trust that and you are not intimate with, or have no desire to be intimate with. Stop going on your assumption on what you think a man will do or how he thinks. You see ladies you want to really know how to get deep with this. First, your keeping him is not about how hot and wet your "Cat"" Sweet Bread" or whatever you call your "Vee Jay Jay" can really get.  A close friend of the Poet's years ago said that when a man cheats, or steps outside the home for sexual needs, it is not about the "Vee Jay Jay", The "Vee Jay Jay" is just one of the rewards he gets while seeking someone to talk to. You see ladies, first stop barking at your husband, man, boyfriend, boo, or friend, or whatever his title is.  Remember while you talking at him crazy ass hell, she is not, she is "Listening" to him consoling him, comforting him, and doing just the opposite of what you are not doing for him or to him. You know ladies you got to understand, despite him being saved, religious, Holy, Mormon, JW, Muslim, etc, the man process is the same. Sometimes his not being faithful has nothing to do with you, but his low self-esteem but him wanting to feel accepted, and sexual acceptance is self fulfilling.  Learn to hear what he has to say, also try and hear the things he is not saying, pay close attention.

Now if you have a man that is very Loving, Comforting, Kind Husband, Man, Boo etc, Keep pushing and keep trying, to understand what his needs are, and learn what you can accept or won't accept.

Men......You can be putting it down in the bedroom, don't mean your woman won't step out on you. You can pay all of the bills in your house, she can have a nice car, and don't have to work, and you can be very affectionate don't mean crap. A long tool than can run deep, with financial pockets won't keep your woman off her back with other men, if it's in her it is in her, just like a man. I am not making excuses for the behavior of both men and women, but in reality, this is happening daily. First off, most men think, if they are showing affection, and intimacy without sex, is a sign of weakness. A lot of men are not making Love to their woman, they are "Screwing" them, they are not making Love. Ladies you know if he is making love to you are not. Stop fooling yourself, if he is not holding you, caressing you, and doing the things, you know he knows how to please you, that means you have been getting "Screwed". There is a difference in what you get. All women desire to have a nice house or home with a white picked fence, there is a difference. Men stop thinking like the ladies your "Dick" is not the trick or the "Magic Wand" or the solution for a successful relationship.

Ladies and Gentlemen, if you was never have been taught your role as a man or woman, Ladies get with a mature woman who will really show you and tell you what the game is really about. Men you try and connect with a man who thinks with something other than his "Dick". You see there are some of what I call "The Old Heads" who really understand what it is. Let someone teach you, treat you, reach you, and get you to the place you want to be.

Ladies, and gents, evaluate where you are, evaluate where you are going, but most of all evaluate what you want and what you desire to be in your relationship, and strive to continue to understand who you are with.

In closing even if it is not "Sexual" there will always be another man or another woman to provide a listening ear to your mate. This listening ear does not mean that sex is going down, but in the end it can happen, but that is another story from your boy "THE POET" telling some real truth.

Open Relationships

Real talk if more men and women could be open about having an open relationship it would be more people staying together. You see with an open relationship, there would be no reason to step out on your mate.  Let me just tell the truth that more men are stepping out on there mate, then women. To be open would be is to have a mutual agreement between the two people, but men can not take what they dish out. They want a woman to do as they say, not as they do. I say what's good for you has to be good for them.

The problem with most marriages, or relationships is that most couples don't want to talk about the real intimate things, because it makes them feel uncomfortable. Most men don't want to talk about what it is that their wives, or girlfriends wants, or need from them. In the long run over time I have seen some of the most sweetest woman loose her fight to hold on to her man, and she will allow the next man, come in and have the listening ear she needed from her husband. This also applies to the woman as well.

Talk with who you are with, and listen to what they have to say and show concern, because if you don't, they next woman, or man will be in your place.

Female Fear

Couples will sometime spend their entire life married but want to be free. The sad part about it is that they refuse to tell each other but will tell others outside the marriage. Most often the men want out, and the women know but fear being alone. Women that fear being alone are alone already, but they just continue to have roommates that they share some sexual encounters and pay bills together.  The man gets another sex partner outside the marriage, but he still wants to control his wife. Men want to continue to control her because he can't take her acting like him. Most men don't want to imagine another man making his wife sweat, and moan like he use to. Now if she never allows herself to play outside the marriage, all she gets is sex, with no emotion, and a wet ass.

Ladies, how long will you allow your significant other to make you feel less. Remove the emotional blanket and excuses and the fear of the unknown.

Expectations

The Poet says……Men need to learn to secrete more emotions, and knowledge if they really want to connect with their significant other.  If women can’t see past the size of a man’s tool, or how deep he can get while scratching that occasional itch, she will always end up with the same thing, a Wet Ass, A Happy Pussy, but never the real nurturing men she needs and deserves to be with. You see without her having and expectations from any man, everyone who she meets will treat her just like a trick……Come on ladies make your man accountable for you, not just your pussy.

"Husbands and Wives How Do You View Each Other"

The Poet says…..The matters of the heart, should start at home.  Emotional distance from the home will harden the heart, and the love may never return, once it is gone. The Husband and the wife should be able to speak to one another, about what is lacking. Watch out for the “Other Shadow” lurking in the mist. You see the other shadow will, basically replace your ass, in every aspect. Men, or Ladies a listening, and understanding ear, from the outside can and will eventually cause your significant other to enjoy the Time, Space, and Matter….of another man or woman. Men don’t think because your ass, is paying bills, being affectionate, domesticated, and you can even lick the hell out of that cat, and your dick can scratch all her itches, don’t mean shit. Ladies, if you won’t suck that dick, and anything else, you can think of you really need to step up your game, and stop giving your man some pity Pussy, you know what that is, it is that Pussy you offer or give him just to shut his ass up, that other woman, will hold your man, and make him feel, loved, and fuck the shit out of him, and send his ass home with a smile on his face each time, and fuck him hard. She will first get in his head and get his attention, and then she takes his body.

Broken Promises

The Poet says…Coming home to a husband or wife with no love is, like coming home to emptiness. Each day you pull up to get out of the car, and all you want to do is to drive by, and never stop. He said, he loved her but they sleep in separate beds. She said I need more from you, he said I don’t want to talk about, it. She said ok, I am tired of begging for you to touch, and talk to me. He did not care, but another man who will listen to her needs and say yes.

Your Mouth

The Poet says…Some people mouths need birth control. If they “THINK” before they speak they will not birth negativity into their own element, and reap from what they said. Some people do it so much they have no idea how wrong it really is. Wake up family and keep other people business out your mouth. This also means anyone outside your house like Mother-In-Law, Father-In-Law, cousins, etc….it causes problems for folks, and you. “Oh! Now I remember why my family is not talking me, it was my mouth again?

Boundaries

The Poet says….Boundaries is in place for a reason, “The Cause” and “The Effect” of them being broken are only determined by the one who wanted to cross them. Once the boundaries have been crossed the rejection, is a reflection of how one truly feels. Forgiveness won’t fix it, but how we process what was done will allow you to understand what direction to take. To settle is to forgive, and forgiveness is to settle. Your settlement may just be an interim emotion until you are ready to leave a place that was once comfortable to your heart and mind....