She’s Married With No Husband "Un-Loved" by "He-Promised"

 

The preconceived thought that marriage should last forever is the desire of many men and women. When a woman meets a man instantly she knows if she wants a relationship that will one day lead to marriage. Then on the other hand you have some women their only desire is to have fun and have little to no expectation, or accountability to no one man. When a real woman finds a man whom she feels is her life mate, she will begin to develop a true friendship, which turns into a real love relationship, and eventually a life that women fantasize about having. 30 years ago her name was “Un-Loved” when she met this man who for 10 years was her boyfriend and became her husband. When “Un-Loved” met “He-Promised” she thought that this man would be a great husband and friend. Early in their relationship she was young and so very beautiful he was handsome but he had no idea how deep the love was that “Un-Loved” had for him.  You see when a woman of her caliber connects with a man like “He Promised” he should have known she was something special. Since the beginning of time men have always have taken love like “Un-Loved” for granted. “Un-Loved” was so beautiful she was breath taken, sweet, loving and very affectionate but she was young, and had only started learning just how beautiful she was and the power she had when it came to actually getting what she needed.  After 10 years of dating “Un-Loved and “He-Promised” got married. During the 10 year court ship “Un-Loved” had developed into a real woman with much more maturity.  Un-Loved mind, and her body had blossomed and “He-Promised” after 10 years of courtship, should have really step up to the plate when it came to fulfilling the needs of his very beautiful girlfriend turned wife.  Early on in the relationship he made many promises that only was in the beginning but over time he did not have what it took to satisfy “Un-Loved”.  “Un-Loved” at no time changed on her expressing her love for “He-Promised”.  For all the years of their courtship and marriage “Un-Loved” never changed.  Over the years “Un-Loved” became ill and suffered will arthritis.  After being diagnosed her focus was not only to understand and accept her diagnosis but as a wife she never forgot her role as “He-Promised” wife. At this point in her life “Un-Loved” as woman wanted comfort from her husband only got her needs met just for little while. She wanted to know that he would be there in her time of need. Early on in the beginning of her sickness he was there but as time went on, he pulled back. When a woman or a man gets sick the want to know that whom they are with will support them and love them despite them being sick. After that devastating news about having rheumatoid arthritis, and diabetes was another sickness that is share with by the doctors of this Jersey Beauty.  Overtime the diabetes eventually took one of “Un-Loved” legs above the knee. After experiencing a couple of medical issues “Un-Loved” had remembered that her husband had stop expressing his love before she lost her leg.  “He-Promised” had definitely fallen out of love with “Un-Loved” but she really did not pay it much attention, but it had happened.  After time when on “Un-Loved” had lost her second leg and that is when she noticed that her husband and friend of 30 years had her feeling like and “Un-Loved” wife but she did not want to believe it.  Things had gotten so bad that she had ask for he husband to leave only after 5 months to ask him to come back home.  After doing that “Un-Loved” should have never asked her husband to come back home, but she was missing him.  After “Un-Loved” ask her husband to come home for the second time, it was the worst thing she had ever done.  Hell “Un-Loved” could not take it and she moved to another state.  After she moved she was really missing her husband and was hoping he would move to the state she was in to show that he cared and he really wanted his wife and family.  He-Promised” would text, sometimes, and even drive several hours, only to act like he cared and wanted his wife.  “Un-Loved” would get tired with this because it was heavy on her heart.

“Un-Loved” wants love from her husband “He-Promised”. “He-Promised” to love her, honor her; cherish her, to sickness and in health.  “Un-Loved” continues to get stronger and is learning to empower herself with the love of God.

Love should never be given based on if you have all of your limbs, or become ill. A woman needs Love, Love and much understanding.

Loud Silence

What does silence sounds like to a man or a woman who wants to someone to listen to their cries of their needs and wants of love and validation. The loud cries that has no sound can truly be herd by those who supposed to hear the need of their significant other. So many men and women can hear but refuse to hear what may have been caused by them in the first place. Than lack of care, concern, will have an outcome than can destroy trust, intimacy inside and outside the home.  What loud, silent cries have you been entrusted to pay attention to but have ignored.

"Forgiveness, Redemption, Restoration"

The Poet says….Forgiveness from a wife or girlfriend is sometimes verbalized for the moment until she realizes that the pain was far greater than she could have ever imagined from what was done to her. There is no set time on how long the forgiveness process takes. During the recovery time of the woman's pain she makes every attempt to allow her heart and mind regain the trust of her mate. The husband or the boyfriend will have a long journey before he is allowed to truly share the space of his wife or girlfriend again, because of her broken heart.  There are very mixed emotions from the woman, and sometimes during the recovery process she feels scorned, lonely, she will desire the emotional connection she once had with her mate. Because she has a wall of protection of being hurt again from her mate, her pheromones secret “Openness” of acceptance from other men. Her walk is different, her conversation is different, and her intimacy is different. She is having sex with her mate, but desires to make love eventually with which she seeks attention.  In the blink of an eye, she has done something that is totally against what she believes.  In the mist of her recovery, and allowing the other men to fill her time and space up she has less of an emotional connection from her husband or boyfriend.  You see once a woman gets emotionally attached with another man it is almost impossible to allow the forgiveness and the redemption to continue for her husband or boyfriend. The things she did with her husband, she is now doing with the other men, and sometimes it’s more than one man, to help fill the void of loneliness.

The constant denial of what she is doing only fuels the behavior, that is wrong, but not wrong to her because now her needs are being fulfilled all over again.  In the mist of emotional rollercoaster she still has insecurities, and expectations from her spouse or significant other. She will continue to search for signs that he continues to be unfaithful. The husband or the boyfriend truly has forgiveness in his hurt, and wants his place back in her heart, but sometimes in life the second chance may have been just too much to handle, so it never happens.

In the end the wounded relationships will either survive, they will die if they both are not trying to truly reconcile.

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Death Desires.....

The Poet says….The health of a man he may internalize his thoughts to keep his emotions in check. Death may be the end result of his illness, but his peace at the end of his journey is all he could hold on to and maintain whatever dignity to die alone in his mind. Acceptance of reality is only understood by the person with the issue. It is not meant for none to understand how a man wants to die, but his own.

The Well & The Water

The Poet says…A Well and the Water in the well are like husband and wife. The Well surrounds the Water and protects the water from the elements. The Well was birthed into his position by gender, but may not know how to protect, the water, at all cost.  As well as the Water, may be the core of the Well but she is resistant, on allowing the Well to protect her. She fears the unknown, because of her original protector, yes her father.