"Forgiveness, Redemption, Restoration"

The Poet says….Forgiveness from a wife or girlfriend is sometimes verbalized for the moment until she realizes that the pain was far greater than she could have ever imagined from what was done to her. There is no set time on how long the forgiveness process takes. During the recovery time of the woman's pain she makes every attempt to allow her heart and mind regain the trust of her mate. The husband or the boyfriend will have a long journey before he is allowed to truly share the space of his wife or girlfriend again, because of her broken heart.  There are very mixed emotions from the woman, and sometimes during the recovery process she feels scorned, lonely, she will desire the emotional connection she once had with her mate. Because she has a wall of protection of being hurt again from her mate, her pheromones secret “Openness” of acceptance from other men. Her walk is different, her conversation is different, and her intimacy is different. She is having sex with her mate, but desires to make love eventually with which she seeks attention.  In the blink of an eye, she has done something that is totally against what she believes.  In the mist of her recovery, and allowing the other men to fill her time and space up she has less of an emotional connection from her husband or boyfriend.  You see once a woman gets emotionally attached with another man it is almost impossible to allow the forgiveness and the redemption to continue for her husband or boyfriend. The things she did with her husband, she is now doing with the other men, and sometimes it’s more than one man, to help fill the void of loneliness.

The constant denial of what she is doing only fuels the behavior, that is wrong, but not wrong to her because now her needs are being fulfilled all over again.  In the mist of emotional rollercoaster she still has insecurities, and expectations from her spouse or significant other. She will continue to search for signs that he continues to be unfaithful. The husband or the boyfriend truly has forgiveness in his hurt, and wants his place back in her heart, but sometimes in life the second chance may have been just too much to handle, so it never happens.

In the end the wounded relationships will either survive, they will die if they both are not trying to truly reconcile.

“What do you think, let me hear from some of our readers”.

Your Deceit

The Poet says….The spirit of sexual deceit are hidden behind the spirit of innocence, but the eyes reveals a small peak into the windows of the spirit that wants to come to the surface to whom you will meet in life. If your flesh longs for some mental and physical attention you will be deceived on the spirit that wants to devour the spirit in you. Do not be mad on about the type of person you let in your life. Your flesh feels good for the release you got.

Voices, Choices, Do You Understand

LADIES.........In life you have choices, and you have voices, you choose to do what you think is right and wrong with your relationships. You also have voices that love to tell you what you should do, or should not do from someone who has been alone since the disciples was on earth. You see ladies if you want to find the truth about a man, ask a man that you trust that and you are not intimate with, or have no desire to be intimate with. Stop going on your assumption on what you think a man will do or how he thinks. You see ladies you want to really know how to get deep with this. First, your keeping him is not about how hot and wet your "Cat"" Sweet Bread" or whatever you call your "Vee Jay Jay" can really get.  A close friend of the Poet's years ago said that when a man cheats, or steps outside the home for sexual needs, it is not about the "Vee Jay Jay", The "Vee Jay Jay" is just one of the rewards he gets while seeking someone to talk to. You see ladies, first stop barking at your husband, man, boyfriend, boo, or friend, or whatever his title is.  Remember while you talking at him crazy ass hell, she is not, she is "Listening" to him consoling him, comforting him, and doing just the opposite of what you are not doing for him or to him. You know ladies you got to understand, despite him being saved, religious, Holy, Mormon, JW, Muslim, etc, the man process is the same. Sometimes his not being faithful has nothing to do with you, but his low self-esteem but him wanting to feel accepted, and sexual acceptance is self fulfilling.  Learn to hear what he has to say, also try and hear the things he is not saying, pay close attention.

Now if you have a man that is very Loving, Comforting, Kind Husband, Man, Boo etc, Keep pushing and keep trying, to understand what his needs are, and learn what you can accept or won't accept.

Men......You can be putting it down in the bedroom, don't mean your woman won't step out on you. You can pay all of the bills in your house, she can have a nice car, and don't have to work, and you can be very affectionate don't mean crap. A long tool than can run deep, with financial pockets won't keep your woman off her back with other men, if it's in her it is in her, just like a man. I am not making excuses for the behavior of both men and women, but in reality, this is happening daily. First off, most men think, if they are showing affection, and intimacy without sex, is a sign of weakness. A lot of men are not making Love to their woman, they are "Screwing" them, they are not making Love. Ladies you know if he is making love to you are not. Stop fooling yourself, if he is not holding you, caressing you, and doing the things, you know he knows how to please you, that means you have been getting "Screwed". There is a difference in what you get. All women desire to have a nice house or home with a white picked fence, there is a difference. Men stop thinking like the ladies your "Dick" is not the trick or the "Magic Wand" or the solution for a successful relationship.

Ladies and Gentlemen, if you was never have been taught your role as a man or woman, Ladies get with a mature woman who will really show you and tell you what the game is really about. Men you try and connect with a man who thinks with something other than his "Dick". You see there are some of what I call "The Old Heads" who really understand what it is. Let someone teach you, treat you, reach you, and get you to the place you want to be.

Ladies, and gents, evaluate where you are, evaluate where you are going, but most of all evaluate what you want and what you desire to be in your relationship, and strive to continue to understand who you are with.

In closing even if it is not "Sexual" there will always be another man or another woman to provide a listening ear to your mate. This listening ear does not mean that sex is going down, but in the end it can happen, but that is another story from your boy "THE POET" telling some real truth.

Open Relationships

Real talk if more men and women could be open about having an open relationship it would be more people staying together. You see with an open relationship, there would be no reason to step out on your mate.  Let me just tell the truth that more men are stepping out on there mate, then women. To be open would be is to have a mutual agreement between the two people, but men can not take what they dish out. They want a woman to do as they say, not as they do. I say what's good for you has to be good for them.

The problem with most marriages, or relationships is that most couples don't want to talk about the real intimate things, because it makes them feel uncomfortable. Most men don't want to talk about what it is that their wives, or girlfriends wants, or need from them. In the long run over time I have seen some of the most sweetest woman loose her fight to hold on to her man, and she will allow the next man, come in and have the listening ear she needed from her husband. This also applies to the woman as well.

Talk with who you are with, and listen to what they have to say and show concern, because if you don't, they next woman, or man will be in your place.

Female Fear

Couples will sometime spend their entire life married but want to be free. The sad part about it is that they refuse to tell each other but will tell others outside the marriage. Most often the men want out, and the women know but fear being alone. Women that fear being alone are alone already, but they just continue to have roommates that they share some sexual encounters and pay bills together.  The man gets another sex partner outside the marriage, but he still wants to control his wife. Men want to continue to control her because he can't take her acting like him. Most men don't want to imagine another man making his wife sweat, and moan like he use to. Now if she never allows herself to play outside the marriage, all she gets is sex, with no emotion, and a wet ass.

Ladies, how long will you allow your significant other to make you feel less. Remove the emotional blanket and excuses and the fear of the unknown.

Expectations

The Poet says……Men need to learn to secrete more emotions, and knowledge if they really want to connect with their significant other.  If women can’t see past the size of a man’s tool, or how deep he can get while scratching that occasional itch, she will always end up with the same thing, a Wet Ass, A Happy Pussy, but never the real nurturing men she needs and deserves to be with. You see without her having and expectations from any man, everyone who she meets will treat her just like a trick……Come on ladies make your man accountable for you, not just your pussy.

"Husbands and Wives How Do You View Each Other"

The Poet says…..The matters of the heart, should start at home.  Emotional distance from the home will harden the heart, and the love may never return, once it is gone. The Husband and the wife should be able to speak to one another, about what is lacking. Watch out for the “Other Shadow” lurking in the mist. You see the other shadow will, basically replace your ass, in every aspect. Men, or Ladies a listening, and understanding ear, from the outside can and will eventually cause your significant other to enjoy the Time, Space, and Matter….of another man or woman. Men don’t think because your ass, is paying bills, being affectionate, domesticated, and you can even lick the hell out of that cat, and your dick can scratch all her itches, don’t mean shit. Ladies, if you won’t suck that dick, and anything else, you can think of you really need to step up your game, and stop giving your man some pity Pussy, you know what that is, it is that Pussy you offer or give him just to shut his ass up, that other woman, will hold your man, and make him feel, loved, and fuck the shit out of him, and send his ass home with a smile on his face each time, and fuck him hard. She will first get in his head and get his attention, and then she takes his body.

Broken Promises

The Poet says…Coming home to a husband or wife with no love is, like coming home to emptiness. Each day you pull up to get out of the car, and all you want to do is to drive by, and never stop. He said, he loved her but they sleep in separate beds. She said I need more from you, he said I don’t want to talk about, it. She said ok, I am tired of begging for you to touch, and talk to me. He did not care, but another man who will listen to her needs and say yes.